You may not know this, but my entire personal development journey began the day that I got so sick of not being able to get girls, that I decided to do everything in my power to change it. (In fact, I started this blog as a journal to document my growth and progress with my goal of getting better with girls, but that story is for another day).
I really sucked with girls. I was shy, nerdy, filled with doubts and limiting beliefs and was incredibly scared to even say Hi to a pretty girl (Seriously!). I know you wouldn’t think that now, but for the first 20 years of my life that’s how it went.
I was never popular, never got invited to parties and most of all…never got any girls.
After I finished school, I spent a fortune on pickup and attraction courses and over the course of 4 years I approached literally hundreds of girls in my quest of getting to a point where I could hookup with a girl almost every time I went out.
I make it sound easy, and just summed up 4 years of hard work, frustration and enjoyment into one tiny paragraph. As you can imagine there is an incredible story behind it all. Much more than meets the eye.
Initially I was blown away by the fact that you could actually learn to get better at attracting girls. I always thought it was something you either had or didn’t have. Like, you had to be born with it, and if you weren’t, then you were destined to suck at getting girls for the rest of your life.
Boy, was I wrong! (And happy that I was wrong, otherwise life wouldn’t have been as fun as it is.)
I bought countless courses from dozens of ‘gurus’, who claimed that their course would turn me into a master at attracting girls within X days (you know the usual hype). I studied their methods furiously, and I put into practice what they told me to do.
This is where this story gets fun to read!
The problem I had (but didn’t realize until many months later) was that all these courses were based on lines and techniques. That meant that I would go and learn a certain line or technique, go up to a random girl and repeat that line to her.
At first it didn’t work at all, and girls just laughed or walked away. Yep…that hurt my frail little ego a lot.
After a few months of doing this, I started getting better. I had said these lines and techniques so many times, that they were almost automatic. I didn’t even have to think about them anymore. I had become a bit of a robot with a thought process of:
- Target Acquired – pretty girl
- Say line 21
- Hope for the best
And yes…I started getting results. Girls wanted me to keep the conversation going, I got a couple phone numbers, a few dates and even made out with a few girls on the same night I had met them. (This was HUGE for me, it wasn’t even remotely present in my reality that I could actually do this).
Many months later I started running into problems. Serious problems.
I got to the point where I had a fair amount of success with these lines and techniques, and that girls would become attracted enough to want to see me again and hang out or go on a date with me. (Woohoo!)
But after spending a few hours with a girl, I had used up every single line and technique that I knew, and I had nothing left to say. That meant…akward silences and me going back to my shy self. And again, that meant no attraction, or whatever attraction there was, died instantly.
So after small success and many months or practice, I was back to square 1 (Only hundreds of dollars poorer).
The only light at the end of the tunnel was the fact that I had become more confident about talking to girls I had never met (but still far from where I am today). I stopped studying attraction courses and I stopped reading theory about how to get girls. Over the next 2 years, I continued to go out twice a week and approach as many girls as I could.
I mostly went to bars and clubs and talked to every girl in the venue. Sometimes I even approached the same girl a couple of times, because I would forget that I had already approached her. The look on her face when I came to talk to her again (and sometimes even said the exact same line) was priceless. Haha!
The result of me doing all these approaches and talking to all these girls every week was that I became less and less interested in the outcome. I got rejected by dozens of girls every month, and the more this happened, the less I started to care about what she thought about me.
This gave me an enormous increase in my confidence, which in turn led me to be myself which eventually led me to being to where I am today.
I won’t say that I’m a master pickup artist, or that I can get every girl I talk to. In fact, I still get a lot of girls who aren’t interested or reject me when I talk to them. But…
Over the last few years I’ve hooked up with more girls than most men do in multiple lifetimes. This may sound conceited, but I know I’m a good/cool guy. I know there are many girls out there who I’m a great match for, and I know that I can get pretty girls.
I’m actually very modest about this thing and prefer not to mention it to other people, that’s why I’ve been hesitant to post my story about my success with getting girls so that the world can read it. I don’t boast about it or go around thinking, “I’m so good with girls” or “I’m the sh*t”.
Nope, I’m just me, having a good time and doing how I wanna do. But I am like 1000 times happier with life now that I know I can get a girl almost every time I go out. If I’m in the mood for it, then I will. If I’m not in the mood, then there is no pressure to get a girl.
I see so many guys in the situation where they are really bad with girls. They can’t get dates, they can’t even have conversations with a girl they like because they are too scared and they can’t get laid if their life depended on it. Does this sound like you? Maybe it does, maybe it doesn’t…
I know what that feels like because I’ve been there. And it sucks. My heart goes out to the guys that don’t know how to get girls. Every now and then I meet a guy who’s heart is crushed by a girl, or who has been chasing a certain girl for the last 3 years. It makes me cringe and it makes me want to tell them what they are doing wrong, and what they should be doing right.
My buddy Carl Harvey was in the exact same situation. For the majority of his life he really sucked with girls!
He too managed to get really good with girls to the point where he can hookup when he wants to. He has managed to get the girl of his dreams and he’s been together with her for the last few years already.
The only difference between Carl and I is the way that we got good with girls. While I bought dozens of courses about attraction and spent months in the field learning through trial and error, Carl spent thousands of dollars on NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) training.
Basically, these NLP techniques allowed him to rebuild his mind and undo all the years of social conditioning and bad programming. He learned to create confidence instantly, remove limiting beliefs and build confidence through many proven and researched techniques.
It doesn’t matter how old you are, where you come from, what you look like or how much money you have. You can learn to get girls regardless of your background or situation.
I have the unique advantage of seeing great success with two totally different methods. You too can eliminate fear, become confident and get girls.
The fact that even if you suck with girls right now, you can learn the skills of attracting and hooking up with girls. You are able to walk into a bar and take a girl home with you the same night, it’s just a matter of deciding on an approach, learning how and practice.
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