Have you ever heard anyone say that?
There are many people who have this prejudice against self improvement. They think that if you are not born with the skill, and if you need to sit and read books and have a mentor that you are a loser.I haven’t heard anything more absurd! Often the people who say this end up needing the most self improvement.
The message of this post for those of you who are uneasy or new to self-improvement, those of you who maybe share a similar idea that self-improvement is for losers but still want to try because deep down you know you want to get better.
None of us are a master at something from the day we are born. Some of us have natural talent, or are quicker to learn, but we all make mistakes and we all need to improve ourselves to some degree to get good at what we want to be good at. You can’t look at someone who is hugely successful and say “Aw, he was born with that talent, I’ll never be as good”. The people who are successful often don’t have much natural talent, but they have a huge passion and desire to succeed at what they do, and they read every book they can get their hands on to get better.
When you make the decision to improve at something, and start putting in the effort and work to get better, you will highly likely endure a lot of criticism and remarks or even insults from others attempting to sabotage your desire to improve. I’ve had it myself, some of my friends and even family members have called me a loser for reading self-help books and making the effort to improve. I have read tens of stories of others who also went through this and had to endure this kind of criticism.
One of the important things about self-improvement is to get a stong sense of identity. To realise that YOU make your own decisions, and that YOU stand behind your decisions 100%, whether they end up good or bad. This means you can evaluate someone’s comment for logical arguments against your decision and see if you are right, and it means that you do not let other people influence you to an enormous degree.
When you make the decision to improve yourself, to get better, and to do whatever it takes…you are not going to get blown off course by remarks or insults or criticism from others looking down on you. Steady and consistant work will lead to fantastic results over time. It may take you longer, and you may not be as good as the person who seems to be born with incredible talent, but if they don’t watch out, then you may just overtake them and be better than them.
I have an inspirational story to share with you:
“The Tortoise and the Hare quit the Rat Race
“What a dull,slow,heavy creature, this Tortoise!” saide the Hare.
“Not really dull,but slow and heavy, you are right,” said the Rat.
“And you Rat”, said the Hare, “Not so heavy,but just as dull. You are weaker than either of us.Nothing but an average rat. Average weight and average smarts. A thin bag of Rat-bones. No hard shell to protect you like the Tortoise has, and no racing muscles as big as mine!”
“Just because the Rat is average,” said the Tortoise, “doesn’t mean he isn’t capable of great things. It is up to him-to decide to do the things that make one great- just like someone as heavy as me.”
“I completely disagree” said the Hare.
“We’ll see,” said the Tortoise, “because I’ll run with both of you for a wager.”
“Done,” said the Hare, and they asked the Fox to be the judge.
The Tortoise, the Hare and the Rat debated so loudly that a crowd of rats gathered to see what all the fuss was about. Finally, the starting gun fired and the Hare scampered off far, far ahead.
The Rat, amazed at the speed with which the Hare hopped,simply stopped a few steps beyond the starting line. “What’s the use?” he said. “I can beat the Tortoise, but I would never catch that Hare! I have better things to do, like digging through garbage cans for an easy prize-one I can taste- a nice,leftover piece of meat or bread.”
Meanwhile, the Hare laid down midway in the course, and took a nap. “No worries,” the Hare said. “I bet I can catch up with the Tortoise when I please.” But the Tortoise kept jogging until he came nearer to the end of the course.
The Hare awoke too late to see the Tortoise inching towards the finish line. He scuttled as fast as he could but the Tortoise had already won by a scrawny neck’s length. The crowd of Rats were left scratching their heads with their hind paws. Where had the race gone so wrong?
Their own brother-Rat had barely left the starting gate, where he remained in silent hesitation. Then again, most Rats never manage to leave the starting gate of life in general.”
This story is an extract from a fantastic book on psychology and the human mind, called
The Tortoise and the Hare Quit the Rat Race by Dr Paul Dobransky.
I personally find this story highly motivational, and we can all relate ourselves to either the Hare,Tortoise or Rat. The Hare is talented but overestimates his abilities, with hard work could achieve wonders but without hard work will fail. The Tortoise is steady, not as talented or as fast, but he is determined and will keep going for as long as he has to. The Rat has potential but gives up before he even starts.
Aim to have the mindset and determination of the Tortoise and the skill and talent of the Hare. Then you will get further that you ever dreamed. Self-improvement is worthy of praise, never doubt that!
A question to the readers:
I have written a few posts now using stories and extracts from great books I have read. Do you enjoy these kind of posts or would you prefer only posts being completely written by me?
Have a Rockin’ day