How anyone save their relationship – No Matter Your Age Or Background. These methods work whether your relationship is 1 month or 10 years old.
Remember that relationships are also friendships. The relationship needs looking after just as you do and your partner does. Friendships are always changing, so think of things which you both enjoy, and keep building new experiences together.
Because you know your partner so well, it is easy to criticize them. They say that the funniest jokes are based in facts, but the issue with jokes and little criticisms about partners is that they can wear thin over time or your partner may start to believe them. Let go of the criticisms, and aim to find something good about your partner every day. Let them know. It might seem a small thing, but no matter how long you have been together, your partner wants to hear that you recognize their strong points.
It can be easy to hang onto things in relationships, but the past is the past, so let it go. The past is really only a good teacher, not a good master. Learn from the past then let it go.
Relationships are based on communication both verbal or non verbal. Whatever you do, keep talking. A good tip is to back it up with a comment that shows the non verbal is also important – pay your partner a complement on how they look or how they make you feel when they are around. If you find it difficult to talk about your feelings and relationship, then this is a good spot to get some professional help and relationship advice since communication is a major reason for breakup.
Deliberately plan time together just for you. Similar to creating experiences, you need to plan space for that to happen. Restaurants can be tough, so plan something where you are both active. Go horse riding, bowling, dancing, do a course or sport together. Perhaps try alternately choosing something you’ve never done before, etc. Be creative but most importantly, make time – get a baby sitter if needed, if that’s too expensive, do a baby sitter swap with a neighbor where one of you minds for them then one of them mind for you the folling day/week.
Stay physical. I mentioned this in my post Offline Dating Tips I wish Everyone Knew. Just gentle, respectful contact is good to save your relationship from getting distant.
Avoid trying to change your partner’s character. A mentor once said to me you can’t change those who are dependent on you for sustenance or sex. It is true. You can change yourself and you can keep building common ground and keep the communication open. It is possible you drift apart, but you can do a lot of bridge building with these tips if you are truly invested in the relationship.
Be honest with yourself without being rash. You will not be able to save your relationship if you are only planning to continue it short term while truly you know in your heart that it is over for you. At the same time, you need to be careful, because the small ups and downs can feel tough and might make you make a rash decision. Give it time and ask yourself what you want. Think of the real outcomes for you if you breakup
Remember the good times and qualities. Day to day life can really get in the way of any relationship. Get some photos and other reminders of your good times together and put them in in obvious places.
If you love somebody set them free. Perhaps you need to encourage them to take a little more freedom. Distance makes the heart grow fonder and no one likes feeling trapped. This is more a tip for the relationships which are simply flat and no longer exciting.
Be respectful. It is really simple, but sometimes relationships fall apart just because of a basic lack of respect and manners. It can feel hard to keep up good manners and respect when you are yelling at one another, but everyone has good qualities and deserves respect.
Openly discuss money issues. Money is often an issue and can be a real rubbing point in many relationships. Talk about your feelings and concerns around money and if needed, build a budget and structure which you both agree to. Remember that you may have quite different views on money management, so if needed, get some professional help.
Anticipate the stressful times. Holidays can be stressful times with kids, so anticipate that you may both be more tired than usual and remember the basics of
- Planning time
Other stressful times are when either of you are hurt or tired or have just had some bad news. Keep this in mind and never take it out on your partner.
If they are taking their stresses out on you then try telling them how it makes you feel when they act in a certain way. Talk about your own feelings, it will help.
Smile. If you are down, likelihood is that your relationship will suffer. Look on the bright side wherever you can find it, tell your partner the things you are grateful for and happy about andkeep smiling every day.
It is really hard to stay calm and level headed when you are in the middle of relationship turmoil, so get some relationship advice. There are many professionals who have seen the ups and downs of hundreds of relationships, so will be able to help more than you think. Just give it a go.