Respect is something we all instantly recognize in others, and it’s like a boomerang. Developing your ability to convey your respect for other people and things is a powerful way to help people see what a great person you are.
Wouldn’t it be fantastic if there was more respect in the world? I’m not just talking about respect for elders or people in high positions, but for everything ….
- our relationships
- our bodies
- our friends
- the environment
It is a personal quality and when you show respect you often get it back. Kind of like karma or love but a little different.
Respect Among Thieves
I remember playing a game when I was small called Grand Theft Auto 2, the motto was
“Respect is Everything”.
In the game you had a character and you had to complete assignments for people and thus building up your status when you completed an assignment.
Its a violent game but the principle contains a clear truth.
You could hijack and steal cars, kill people on the street, there were lots of gangs and groups but if you didn’t treat people with respect, every gang member would become hostile and try to kill you.
It’s pretty simple really, just made really obvious by the extreme example.
Treating all people with respect everyday is like an on switch that opens new opportunities.
Just by being continually respectful, you might find someone being really kind to you, offering you a job or vacation or perhaps a new friendship. Showing respect for others gives you a tailwind, but going around and disrespecting people might land you in a very hostile situation that you do not want to be in!
The Power of Respect
Just like with showing respect for others, if you treat your body right, it will reward you with good health. Treat it badly by not exercising, eating junk food, etc and you will end up with all sorts of problems!
First you need to have an attitude and approach, and then you need to act in line with your approach or view. People recognize this and the real power is in the fact that people see you respecting one thing and then they know that you are likely also to respect them and their efforts.
The power of showing respect lies in the fact that people know that if you respect one thing you are more likely to respect everything.
Simply looking after your own body and appearance can be a really powerful way to convey the care and appreciation you carry for the world.
Definition of Respect
The acknowledgment that someone or something has value, the showing of thoughtfulness and consideration, to refrain from intruding upon or interfering with something or someone.
Disrespect and Intelligence
Many people show disrespect and it is easy to do. For example, nature often comes off second best. Plants and animals are amazing, but some people don’t care and burn or kill them for fun. Sure we may need wood to stay warm, or food to eat, that’s understandable. I’m talking about disrespect that demonstrates lack of thought.
The above examples are extreme, but waste includes
- pollution/littering – wasting good quality water, air or environment.
- wasting relationships – showing disrespect for others
- wasting resources
Many of us are guilty of waste at some point. But each time we catch ourselves wasting something, it is a chance to prove our intelligence and reduce future waste.
Displaying a lack of respect for resources is seen by others as displaying a lack of intelligence
Even when it comes to money and business, when you look down on and disrespect the small people and opportunities you may never make it big. And that very same small person or deal may turn you into a multimillionaire.
Respectful relationships are powerful relationships because people recognize the strengths in each other and admire the individuals for who they are. Respectful relationships also recognize and understand the other relationships that each individual has. Let me use an example how you can use this knowledge.
I love talking about social environments and groups especially meeting new people!
When related to pickup and dating, say you’re out at a club and you see a gorgeous girl you would like to talk to, but shes in a group of friends.
Sure one way is to go up to the girl and introduce yourself, but the moment she senses any fear or desperation or neediness you will be cut off. Think of the power of using respect in this situation.
Let’s say instead, you simply assume that all her friends are cool people too because she looks like a cool person. That opens up a whole new opportunity. Since if she really is cool then her friends will be cool too, then you can chat with any, in fact all of them. Obviously you are not going to date all of them, so it really takes the pressure off and you can have a good time, show them respect and meet the group.
It is possible to go up to a group of 6 guys and one girl, make friends with everyone and leave with the girl just by being truly respectful.
When approaching a girl in a group, you always acknowledge (show respect to) the leader of the group but also the others. Talk to them first, it shows you are a cool person, and you’re not just there to steal the girl away.
Being respectful shows her you are a real man, a gentleman. Even if she is not watching, getting to know new people in the group might gain you a friendship and more often than not an introduction to the rest of the group.
This is the classic respect first and it comes back with the introduction because you initially started off respecting all people and now they give you respect by introducing you to new people and those people will have a higher respect for you.
It is the same everywhere – at work, dating, in your relationships.
RESPECT IS EVERYTHING! So show respect first.