NOTE: This is a guest post by John from Highlife2b.com
Happiness is a messy term, isn’t it? It’s just a feeling; an emotion. Yet when most of you
think of what you want the most of in life, all you can stand to muster is happiness.
Why? Why is capturing an emotion the most important thing to do in your life?
I’ll tell you why; because it’s easy. Think back to all the times you’ve been asked about
what you want to do with your life. If the word “happiness” was anywhere in there, be
afraid. People put emotions in place of logic when they’re confused.
This is something most of us can’t control. (It’s like being in love. We know it doesn’t
make sense, but it feels so right.)
You’ve been trained to think that you should be constantly shooting for something
intangible. You’ve been brainwashed into believing that dreams were something you only
thought about while you did unremarkable work during the day.
You’ve been pressured by society into internalizing that what you ultimately want in life
has to be unreachable and incomprehensible. Unbelievable and impossible. Your dreams
were to remain as they are.
The “dream” is dead
I’m giving you permission to crush your dreams, right this second. I know what you’re
“Crush my dreams? Are you insane?”
No, I’m just practical. You’re dreams aren’t real. They won’t ever be real. What’s
real is action and that’s what you should strive to achieve. The dream of you
sitting on a beach with passive income rolling in every hour can be achieved. Just not as a
The problem with dreams is that they’re just images based on emotion. When you dream
of becoming a singer, you don’t see the images of yourself practicing hours every day
just to hit that high note. You don’t see the rejections by countless record companies. You
don’t see the depression that comes after failing hundreds of times.
You only see what you would feel after you’ve gone through all the challenges. Of
course, it wouldn’t be a very good dream if it was so close to reality. That’s where my
next idea comes in.
Action is something you can touch
Throw out the word “dream” and take up the word “action”. Like I said, action is real.
It’s what you can touch. It’s quantifiable. You can go anywhere with it—even the places
you’ve only coveted in your dreams.
But action alone won’t get you to where you want. Actions are just vehicles. You need to have the mind to tell them where you want to go. There’s a lot more
to action than meets the eye, so I’ve compiled a few textual schematics to help you build
your dream from your reality.
The 3 essentials to go from emotional confusion to practical clarity
You’ve given up on the dreaming thing and now you’re ready to take on cold, hard reality.
Well, more power to you! To get there, you’ll need the right tools. I’ve got them listed
below to show you how:
Action – the vehicle
Without this part, you’re beyond screwed. How are you going to get where you want
to go without any concrete mode of transportation? Action is what drives us forward.
But what can work for you can just as easily work against you. Sometimes you get this
feeling like your actions are switching gears and running on autopilot; this is called a
habit. And when it gets like this, it can be tough to regain control.
This is why action alone isn’t enough to get you where you want to be. With the threat of
your actions turning into bad habits, it’s imperative that you use the right fuel.
Motivation or enthusiasm – the fuel
Your actions could easily veer off into the ditch of bad habit country. When that
happens, take it as a sign that the fuel you’re using is boredom. When you lose interest
in productive actions, they start to slip into the habit of checking e-mail, random web-
surfing, and other time-sucks.
If you want your actions to be effective and stay on course, pick the right fuel;
the fuel of motivation. When you’re motivated to be productive,
there’s nothing standing your way. You don’t have to find ways to waste time or keep
yourself busy. You’re just doing what you have to do simply because you want to do it.
Even when the work is piled extremely high, you’ll keep barreling through. Action +
motivation = a force to be reckoned with.
Now comes the big question we’ve all been waiting to be answered. Where
are you headed?
Practical result – the destination
Your actions are laid out in front of you. You’ve got plenty of fuel to keep you going
for months, years even. What lies ahead for you beyond the horizon is now of your own
choosing. Where do you want to go?
It seems we’re back where we started. Most of you chose to go to a little place
called “happiness”. Now that you know that you can never get there, what’s the next best
spot to aim for? It’s actually quite simple.
What we all really want in life, what we’re all working for and sweating for, day in and
day out is actually more action. But they’re not the type of actions that
take you places. They’re the type of actions that create happiness and joy. You may not
believe it, but sitting on the beach and making passive income isn’t happiness. Neither is
buying expensive luxuries. Why do you think most retired people end up going back to
They have all the money they’ll ever need to survive and yet they settle for working as
cashiers and clerks and secretaries. They just want to do something. And when you ask
them what they did for a living, they’ll tell you that they weren’t cashiers. They had real
professions. They owned companies and lead movements; they did what they enjoyed.
This brings us to an astonishing truth:
The destination is not happiness. The destination is doing what you love.
The man who runs his business until he’s no longer physically able, that is happiness. The
woman who sings her lungs out until she can’t even muster a screech, that is happiness.
The person who keeps working for little to no pay, trying to make that one problem go
away…that is happiness.
I have given all I know; the rest is on your own
You have been fooled. The destination is action. I’ve given you the basics, but the
specifics are yours to fill in. Only you know what you love. If not, you’ll find it one day.
While you’re busy chasing happiness, you’ll get a sudden impulse to sing or dance or
write while on the job.
And then you will stand up and say, “Yes”.
John is the author of HiLife2B, where he inspires you to do what you love and go beyond perspective.
You can download his free e-book, 101 Maxims to Break the Mold and Conquer Your World.